#Steubenville #Outrage #Exhaustion

This is quite simple.  Please post and share:

 

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And this blogger is back. With a twist.

That rather sounds like a martini.  Anyway, time for some social media infusion.  So much has changed since my book came out.  I have spent my time promoting the book, meeting such wonderful people, signing my book across the U.S., doing television, radio and print interviews and now, I’ve parlayed my experience into something much more satisfying than talking about myself. (snooooze).

My wonderful speakers’ agency (APB) has me criss-crossing the country speaking to colleges and universities, towns & cities of first responders and law firms in order to train folks how to deal with people like me.  It’s been a huge year for sexual assault – and not a good one – Sandusky/Penn State, the GOP and Mourdock/Ryan/Akin, the woman in India who was gang-raped and killed.  I’ll go on and on in other posts.  I love my public speaking life and I have also embarked on my second act as a writer in freelance journalism, so look for my pieces in blogs, magazines and newspapers.  I cherish my editors and my agents who manage to get this girl gigs.  I am always astounded by this.   I will also be spending more time on Capitol Hill as an advocate, since we KNOW what a mess that is up there.  Wheeeee!

There will be a second book.  It will not be about me.

In the meantime, I’ve been raising my now 10 year old and 4 year old in Alexandria, Virginia.  We spent August in East Hampton, eating from the sea and farmers’ markets.  Mike and I went to Milan to see Springsteen (I know – extreme superfan, I am), then onto Rome for a little getaway.  As a family, we went to Disney and Mike and I took a brief getaway to the Bahamas.  Mike began a new job and we adopted a new puppy, Jingles.

May 2013 bring so many good thinks to you, my sparkly, delightful readers.  I promise to give you content – some lifestyle, some crime, some personal, some hilarity, but always from the heart.  Cheers!

 

“Trial Mix”. Let’s talk about the George Huguely murder trial.

We’re now on Day 2 of jury selection in the trial of George Huguely, the University of Virginia lacrosse player accused of murdering his former girlfriend, fellow lacrosse player, Yeardley Love. I’d by lying if I said I didn’t have a dog in this fight for so many reasons. Mr. Huguely is represented by the same defense team that defended one of my rapists, and, seeing the coverage is certainly a bit of a trigger – it’s like time has stopped. Same courtroom, same Rhonda and Fran, same supporters of Miss Love, wearing pink, as my sorority sisters did in solidarity, much to the consternation and objection of Ms. Quagliana.

Courtesy: UVA Sports

It seems as though Judge Hogshire (same judge) is allowing the photographs of the crime scene, in a late decision this past Saturday night. Defense found these photos to be “prejudicial.” I daresay a jury should be allowed to see the photos of the alleged victim. Round One = Prosecution (same prosecutors, Dave and Claude).

In reading the excellent reportage from The Hook, The Daily Progress and WaPo, there seems to be a common thread among many commenters that they’ll be seeing Mr. Huguely “walking on the Downtown Mall” in about 10 years, due to the perception that Charlottesville juries are not so tough on defendants and that Charlottesville Circuit Court has a longtime history of short sentences for felony crimes. Feel free to comment on that one.

All I know is that my thoughts over the next few weeks are not with the ridiculous posturing and machinations of the defense team (they are, after all, doing their job) or how poor George had a terrible upbringing with an abusive, addict of a father and a pleaser of a mother. My thoughts are with Yeardley and her mother and sister and the notion that justice, even in the midst of a liberal jurisdiction and a media blizzard may be done.

May there be strength to all involved and prayers to the family – and wise choices on the parts of the jurors, prosecutors and Judge. I’ll be covering this and other subjects in the foreseeable future. It’s time we began to talk about this again – are University of Virginia (and other campus) women simply collateral damage behind the storied, ivied walls of a very traditional, Southern, sports-and-fraternity loving entity?

Come see me at BookHampton Sag Harbor 8/21 at 5 PM!

Hi, lovely summer friends! My favorite bookstore in the world, Bookhampton, is hosting me on Sunday, August 21st at 5 PM in the Sag Harbor store. Come one, come all as I discuss how being in the Hamptons pretty much saved my sanity in the onset of The Letter and the years that followed. I’ve come full circle and am very excited.

Later that evening, RAINN is hosting a wonderful “Bowl for RAINN” event from 6 to 11 pm at East Hampton Bowl with Mick Foley, our wonderful supporter. So tie on your bowling shoes after the book party and head on over for drinks, dancing and support of RAINN. Couldn’t be a better Sunday out East, now could it?

1-2-3 and go! Casey Anthony Verdict – your thoughts?

I did not watch the entire trial, but I did watch closing arguments as well as some of George and Cindy Anthony’s testimonies. Here’s my take: we all KNOW she did it, but the prosecution didn’t have much to work with, ergo, reasonable doubt. No DNA, no definitive motive, no method of death, a body that disintegrated far too long thanks to Police not listening to Roy Kronk, etc.

It will also, IMO, in extraordinarily bad taste for Baez and team to be yukking it up with Champagne right after the verdict. Such shades of O.J. Will Schadenfreude catch up with Casey in the form of perjury charges against Cindy and a big huge bill from the State of Florida? Or will she be wooed with interviews and book deals? All I care is that there is a dead precious baby and one or more of those folks know about it.

And what did you all think of Casey’s glamorous look at sentencing? The hair, the makeup, the broad smiles? Had I dodged that kind of bullet, I’d still be in my schoolmarm phase. OK, go!

Welcome to the “new” blog on WordPress! Enjoy your time here!

Hi, all!

As many of you know, I’ve been juggling book tour and talks and clubs with parenting, drafting my second book treatment and maintaining some sense of self-care throughout the madness. The new blog will talk about current events in crime and justice (no dearth of cases here, whew!) as well as some questions you may have about the book, having read it. Or not! In which case, here is my Amazon author page for upcoming events.

So many nice folks to thank for the success of this book – from my agent to my publisher, my editor, my publicist, and all the lovely people in the media who sought to tackle a “dirty” subject. We’ll be highlighting those writers, shows, bloggers, radio folks and champions, as well as including them as guest bloggers. I am so grateful to everyone who worked on this project and continue to do so!

If you are with the media, head to the main page and find me that way, but feel free to leave a (mostly appropriate and nice, please) comment here in the spirit of discussion. I clearly reject all troll-ish comments as they are not part of the discussion and it’s not worth it to expose other survivors or their families to boorish behavior as I used to.

I’ll even be coming into the year 2011 and using multimedia this time around, so yet, videos, photos and hyperlinks and perhaps my YouTube channel which I’ve been putting off. Amen!

So, come often, get your books out and we WILL schedule an online Twitter or blog reading one day soon with my publicist. In the meantime, I’ll be posting this evening about your thoughts on – er – THAT verdict. You know what I mean. Hmmmm….

The book is here!

Have you read “Crash Into Me” yet? Available at Amazon.com, bn.com, borders.com and most independent bookstores. Feel free to leave a comment/review here or on the sites. Thank you to ICM, Bloomsbury, my great team and my family. We’ll be posting appearances and signing as we merge this blog into a new one soon.

I took a long vacation from blogging!


I hope you all don’t mind – it’s been a tough year. That said, I expect to return to blogging with the release of my book, “Crash Into Me”. The book will be out on January 4 in stores and is now available for pre-sale. I have much to say about justice and injustice and I will provide you with links to other worthy sites. To say I’ve been lazy is not true – just raising two young babies, writing, running a company and moving to a new place.

I love all of you. Thank you for following! I promise to update – there have been so very many egregious cases in the news. Tell me what you want to discuss!

Morgan Harrington update

I never like when law enforcement goes “radio silent” on a case, but usually it’s because a) they haven’t got anything new to report or b) they do and they need to keep it from the public while they continue to piece together the investigation. They owe us, the public, nothing and while I know many folks are angry about the lack of information about Morgan’s disappearance, The Hook, a fantastic Charlottesville weekly, has done the best job of covering the story.

Kudos to Courteney Stuart, an editor of the Hook, for her outstanding reporting. Please read this article about what some witnesses are saying.

We pray for the safe return of Morgan to her family and friends. So many unanswered questions.

1) are there any photos of her that night?
2) is there any surveillance video from JPJ Arena?
3) Why is the University of Virginia choosing to remain silent about the case?
4) have the sex offenders in the area been questioned about that night?

Given the massive amount of blog commentary, Courteney has indeed done her homework, though it seems hard to get quite a few of them to stay on topic.

Your help is needed for the Richmond HS gang rape victim.

Hopefully, justice will be served in this most horrifying case of a) gang rape at a school dance, b) where up to 20 bystanders cheered and said nothing.

The 15 year old victim is said to be resting at home following her hospitalization. Here’s how you can help!

*Please* take a moment to send a card or note to the survivor of last Sat’s gang rape: Richmond High School is accepting cards and donations for the victim and her family. They can be mailed to the school at 1250 23rd St., Richmond, CA 94804-1011. Make checks out to the Richmond High Student Fund, with “For sex assault victim” written in the memo line.

Of course, I find it odd that the very school with improper lighting, security and chaperones is collecting the funds, but….please send your money to help her heal. She will have a long road, bless her.