Have you survived trauma? You need this book.

We are trying to make this blog more about helping people than about highlighting the flaws of our justice system – which is also helping people!

That said, I was given a book that changed my life. Click here to order “Invisible Heroes”. This book is terrific for anyone who has survived war, violence, sexual assault, a horrific accident, witnessing any of the above, a traumatic divorce, physical or mental abuse of any kind. You suffer from trauma if you have panic attacks, pain, flashbacks, PTSD, nightmares, etc. Trauma remains trapped in the body unless it is freed from the mind. This book is not meant as a panacea, but as a way to kick start your healing.

It will make you see that you need not suffer. It’s a groundbreaking book in that there is really nothing out there like it. The author, Belleruth Naparstek, is a therapist who works with guided imagery and the left brain theory. It really opened my eyes. Be well.

Madoff pleads guilty to 11 counts, is remanded.

Now, I have spent a great deal of time thinking about this and sharing with friends on FaceBook. This morning, I saw one of Bernie Madoff’s victims say “There is NO punishment great enough for Madoff to ease my injury, my anger, my sadness.”

The question I posited on my friend Lisa Bloom’s Tweet was “Why, as Americans, do we become the angry, bloodthirsty mob for this guy and yet not for rapists and murderers? Where is the outrage there?”

A girl posted on the thread sort of angrily to me and said that there is no hierarchy of victimhood and that Bernie Madoff is just as bad a criminal as any. I wholly disagree. You ask John Walsh, “do you think losing all of your $$ and losing your son is the same?” I think you know the answer. Given the chance of regaining my dignity and virginity and innocent life, I’d happily part with my money,

Listen, Madoff is a bad, bad man, but he’s not a child-toucher, rapist or murderer. He’s a killer of dreams, a betrayer of trust, but the fact that we had to watch his car, a la OJ Simpson, drive to Court this morning is ridiculous. Why not just as much howling at the moon at the mistreatment of our brothers and sisters in this country, not to mention overseas?! Children are beaten, starved, etc. If you read this blog, you’ve been exposed to some of the most heinous crimes and we never hear followup. Why? This is my theory – WE created Bernie Madoff. Greed and our obsession with money makes his crime worse in the eyes of the average American. This is not right.

Yes, Ruth knows all – she was his bookkeeper. Where is the money? Who else is involved? I mean, really – how does one guy get away with $65 billion?

Amen, Connecticut! Sex offenders should not have MySpace profiles.

Thanks to Dick Blumenthal, we now have 90,000 less MySpace folks – all sex offenders. The logic is that sex offenders cannot be rehabbed and why are they “friending” young people? I agree. If you are a serious person, you go to FaceBook, not MySpace. MySpace is for high schoolers.

MySpace had initally refused to comply with the request to name their sex offender members, citing privacy and First Amendment laws. That said, parents need to know. The Internet is the biggest breeding ground for crime right now. I spent a few hours at a CT SVU department discussing Internet crime and I was shocked at how easy it was – one of the detectives taught me – to track someone and figure out exactly where they are and what they do. This is how young people are abducted. They are online so they can be “cool” and they “friend” strangers.

Thanks, Dick Blumenthal, Atty General of Connecticut! And for any parents reading this blog who are clueless about texting and Internet acronyms – please study up and know these.

The University of Virginia rebuked by the Fed for attempting to silence sexual assault victims.

Four years after the college safety nonprofit Security on Campus filed a complaint against UVA for its mishandling of sexual assault cases, the Department of Education has ruled that the university has, in fact, violated federal law by threatening victims of sexual assault with punishment if they spoke about their cases.

I cannot say enough kind words about Security on Campus, the Clery Act or Annie. You can read about it here.

UPDATE: A huge “thank you” to Susan Russell, whose efforts spearheaded what happened in this case. She is a concerned mom to a survivor, an activist and the founder of an amazing website that I wish didn’t have to exist. You can check it out here.

Coming back atcha – tomorrow!

It’s been a long time and I feel so guilty…lots to cover. Thanks for the support and the messages. We’re doing really well thanks to all the help from our extraordinary baby nurse and lots of friends.

But the blogger in me needs to talk, so I’ll be back tomorrow and we’ll soon have guest bloggers as well.

Enjoy the day! xo Liz

PS – we’re going to discuss Obama-nation, Spitzer’s “getting off” while the hookers face the law, the 8 year old who killed two men in AZ, Caylee Anthony update, the Serbian arrested and lots of updates to cases we’ve been following. If you read this blog and have some information on a local case or want an update on something specific, please chime in!

So much to say!

Apologies, dear readers, for my absence in the blogosphere. It seems my beloved Leo is extraordinarily colicky – and as any parent of a colicky baby knows, there is no fix. Your gorgeous baby turns into a screamer for three hours a day, three days a week and for up to three months. We are fortunate enough to have an extraordinary baby nurse, but it’s really heartbreaking to hear the one you love scream. We’ve read Dr. Harvey Karp’s book and we know it’s temporary – ergo, a break from blogging.

I also have almost completed my manuscript and I am forever grateful to my agent and my editor for their patience through a high risk pregnancy and difficult babyhood. I took my therapists’ recommendation that I was diagnosed with PPD and am taking steps to alleviate that. Most trauma survivors have their wounds opened anew when they have children, especially colicky ones because they blame themselves for a baby who cries. That said, Leo is a gorgeous baby who rewards me with lots of smiles and he loves to look at the massive bookshelves in our library, our paintings, the pattern of wallpaper and the pleats in the curtains. He is smart, curious and just gorgeous, with a full head of surfer boy blond hair. “Love” does not begin to describe the feelings we all have for him. In a few weeks, his “fourth trimester”, as they term colic, will end. He loves taking a bath – it brings him back to the womb.

But since I have so much to say about Casey Anthony’s arrest on murder charges, the Tori Bowen “rape as a word” case, the trial of Darryl Littlejohn and all sorts of things, I will be back soon.

In the meantime, I want everyone to laugh. The genius of this piece you’ve undoubtedly seen is that Samberg’s Mark Wahlberg is so dead on! His cadence, his body language. Some folks don’t get it. I laughed heartily for first time in a while! Lest you forget, his character, Degnan, was the best part of “The Departed”.

Be back in a while with lots to say! Miss you all!

Update on Nujood, my hero, the “child bride”.

You can read about brave attorney, Yemeni Shada Nasser. I am so proud of everyone involved in freeing these children from such sick bondage!

Bravo. Click here to read the full story!

University of Iowa rape coverup update – two heads have rolled. Mason to follow?

To me, Sally Mason is the one who hid the documents. Her review is on Thursday, but perhaps by throwing these two under the bus, she keeps her job. Note: no severance packages! Finally, a win for students and their parents everywhere. A strong message that athletes, fraternities and endowments do NOT take precedence over a young person’s very soul!

Thank goodness!

A little miracle…welcoming baby Leo.

After a dramatic water-breaking (at the beach during Tropical Storm Hanna – don’t ask why I felt the need to connect with the ocean during a storm) and a 24-hour labor, we are so proud to welcome our little miracle surfer baby Leonardo Michael. He is named as such because he is, like a lion, “brave and strong”. He is very blond, weighed 8 lbs and 1 oz and arrived Sunday afternoon.

Such joy and love – we are humbled and proud. Today, show your love for an innocent child. They make the world a beautiful place and our lives worth living.

With love and hugs, Liz, Mike, Ava and Leo

I got a phone call.

Which I cannot take; too stressful for the baby and for me. But one of the main witnesses in my case has sent his attorney a-calling. I won’t blog about it, but I wonder, is someone going to speak some truth and help me to know what happened to me? This witness did nothing to me, he will not and cannot be charged. Perhaps he has found a conscience? He was very uncooperative with Police when interviewed.

Attorneys don’t call for no reason. I am interested in hearing what they have to say, but my doctors dictate that I cannot return the call. It just takes one person. One voice. To change a life for the better.

Please pray for us; that this man has some answers.