The book is here!

Have you read “Crash Into Me” yet? Available at,, and most independent bookstores. Feel free to leave a comment/review here or on the sites. Thank you to ICM, Bloomsbury, my great team and my family. We’ll be posting appearances and signing as we merge this blog into a new one soon.

Justice revisited. An excellent article re: Gary Zerola in BoMag.

A few years ago, we heard a lot of activity around accused and acquitted serial rapist (I’m trying to say he was acquitted here – alleged, accused, acquitted, so don’t parse my words!), Gary Zerola.

Many people weigh in on the status of Zerola, the fundraiser, charmer, survivor of a sad childhood. They also weigh in on his dark side. It’s a well-written article by David Copeland and since I’ve received quite a few emails from some of his alleged victims, I thought we’d revisit it via this article, courtesy of Boston Magazine.

Enjoy and comment. As you know, you can always post here anonymously without fear of retribution as long as you keep it without racial slurs or personal attacks of a false nature. I want this to be a safe haven.

Unexpected windfall for Jay McInerney,

If you grew up in the 80s, as I did, you spent a lot of time reading “Lit Pack” authors Jay McInerney, Bret Easton Ellis and Tama Janowitz, whose nightly exploits at the Odeon in TriBeCa were legendary. They made James Frey look like a preschooler taking a juice and graham cracker break. Anyhoo – I am not going to comment at all on the John Edwards scandal. I’m not surprised, I’m not shocked, I am sorry for his wife, I never trusted “Mr. End Poverty” with his $400 haircut (seriously, what man needs a $400 haircut?), but at the end of the day, powerful and not so powerful men sleep around. It’s wrong, but it is what it is and I cannot pretend to get caught up in it. I feel for Elizabeth, I do – she should be mightily mad and I doubt he told her. He’s lying about it in the smarmiest way, so just don’t ever vote for him (as if he can run again). And I totally think the child is his. Enough about that. It has nothing to do with anything but American hypocrisy and Puritanical craziness.

Anyway, according to the New York Post, the mistress, Rielle Hunter, “has had other famous boyfriends, including author Jay McInerney, who has said he based the promiscuous character in his 1988 novel, “Story of My Life,” on Hunter. Boosted by the scandal, the novel is out of stock after shooting up to No. 470 on’s best-seller list – prompting its publisher to print another 2,500 copies.”

The character’s name is Alison Poole and I pictured her much differently! Good for Jay. I see him in Greenwich, I see him and the kids in East Hampton. People give him so much grief for who he is. I don’t know him. He writes lovely books about wine now and is married to heiress Anne Hearst. Let’s hope he keeps it together!

Well done: “It’s Not OK”

While perusing one of my favorite blogs, Pop Sugar, I came across this genius posting from Inked Tink. She could not have articulated it better.

its NOT ok to rape her
A lot has been said about how to prevent rape: Women should learn self-defense, lock themselves in their houses after dark, they shouldn’t have long hair and wear short skirts, they shouldn’t leave drinks unattended. f*ck, they shouldn’t dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bullsh*t, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don’t rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape her.
if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don’t rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her.

if your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend.
if your “friend” tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.

don’t tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.
don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he “got some” with the drunk girl.
don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

Say What You Need To Say.

Reading blogs is a good way to get five minutes of recreation or education (or complete escapism). Kudos to John Mayer, not only a talented musician, but an intelligent and ironic blogger. I don’t normally read celeb blogs, but his I do. He’s from Fairfield, CT, as well and that doesn’t hurt. So much of the Hollywood-ish pap coming out of the mouths of “artists” is beyond banal. Like I would ever read, say, Rosie O’Donnell’s blog. Sheesh.

He is a proverbial breath of fresh air with his dry wit, fears, doubts, kindness, sarcasm and pride.

So, read on. Totally amusing, sharp and self-deprecating. He’s a Friend in My Head.


So, tell us what you want more of:

1) crime and punishment – current cases and their outcomes
2) celebrity justice
3) pop culture and commentary
4) Op Ed (oy!)
5) just for laughs

We’re trying to make this blog more appealing to a wider audience and yet, still edgy enough to spark discussion and break new ground that isn’t anywhere else. As I write my book, this is sort of a dumping ground for the detritus of my manuscript; the stuff I can’t always put in there.

Here’s where we won’t go: 1) politics, specifically Obama/Clinton – there’s enough of that!, 2) Paris Hilton or Lindsay Lohan (aarrrghhh!), 3) religion – no sense in that! Thanks for reading and pass it on.

Regardless of what you may think of defense attorneys….

Mickey is one of the best and getting inside his head is a treat. Mickey is a friend to Mike and I, which I know is hard for some to understand, given he once defended someone like Alex Kelly and I sure hope I don’t offend Adrienne and Hilary with this post, but I have to come clean. Mickey, of course, lives near us and we share mutual friends as well. I love that, in some minds of the Townsfolk, Mickey’s defining Greenwich moment is never about Michael Skakel or Alex Kelly, but about all the pink and green Greenwich parents getting their Range Rovers in a wad and DISinviting Mickey as the Greenwich High School commencement speaker one year. I live here, I love it here and it obviously has to be all about rainbows and sunshine although controversy lurks here, of course. As if Mickey didn’t defend those very same kids and parents at one time or another for various infractions. Of course, there were more serious cases and I invite the lively debate – this is NOT to offend.

One thing I have always respected about Mick is that he never would ask Rhonda-esque questions of a victim, such as “how short was your skirt”? He was always disgusted by her. He’s tough, but he understands the limits. He’s brash and funny and his new book is divine. It’s called, inevitably, “How Can You Defend Those People?”

To be serious, I think it’s just as important for those of us on the survivor side to know and understand the defense as well as the prosecutors, as most criminal attorneys find themselves on both sides of the courtroom in their lifetimes. Mickey is a terrific advocate (always was for me during the case on television), a great father and loving husband to Fox’s Legal Correspondent Lis Wiehl.

I am proud to know that Mickey will be writing the afterword to my book as a counterpoint to Linda Fairstein’s foreword. It’s fair and it’s just. Go ahead, read the book – it’s great to know what happens behind all of those privileged, closed doors.

Why blog?

Sometimes, I wonder why we blog. It’s not like journaling – that’s very private stuff. Someone asked me once why I bothered to blog and that got me thinking.

At the end of the day, the justice system in our country works sometimes and doesn’t work other times. I am not here to complain about that fact – you generally won’t see me trying to affect change, but I will highlight inequalities in the system. Change takes a long time to happen and in some cases, there won’t ever be change but I want people to understand that it’s fine to learn to accept realities. Most of all, I really believe that most people are drawn to read this stuff because

a) we believe most people are good
b) we don’t understand how bad things can happen
c) we want better for our children and loved ones
d) just because someone’s had a bad experience, it doesn’t doom them forever

I have had the misfortune (and great learning experience) of being a witness in a notorious case that polarized people. Most of you don’t agree with the outcome, but in the end, I am a joyous, thankful and lucky person and I want to share my story of what it’s like to go through the system. The stories of others matter to me a great deal, too. The media loves to (it’s their job) put a very salacious face stories of murder, rape, injustice, etc. Who’s the victim, who’s the perp, how badly were they hurt, what did the body look like? How are they acting? Are they too emotional? Too passive? We tend to judge what we see and read – I do it too, so I can’t complain if some nutty people blog about how I deserved the crime that happened to me. It’s a big world out there filled will all kinds of people. With computers.

The media also picks and chooses what stories they deem fit for publication and airing and I understand that so much. That is not a criticism at all. Sometimes I wonder why a story doesn’t get more play, then a week later, I see it everywhere.

Some days, I’ll blog about completely uplifting or trivial things. We’re not trying to save the world or run for office here.

So, spread the word, suggest a story idea and know that, at the end of the day, I’m going to try to make you think, make you happy about your life, make you hopeful, make you laugh and that’s about it. No one really takes blogging seriously, least of all me.

Happy hearts.

Well, that was a self-imposed exile away from blogging, although still obsessing with other folks’ blogs. Trying to cleanse a bit and stay away from the information overload (especially election-related and celebrity rehab-related) in the world. Anyhow, thank you to our two or three readers who were wondering why we disappeared.

Work has been wonderfully busy and I’ve been really tired, just trying to push through these few weeks of terrible exhaustion and morning sickness. Suffice it to say that impending new addition is quite the miracle and so far, so good. All looks healthy even though I am a nervous wreck, given my history. I am under the most excellent care and my docs are funny, caring and completely trustworthy. Now, if I could stop dry heaving…

So – where to begin? Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you – I hope there is much love in your life, romantic or otherwise. Self-love, especially, as too many people like to tear themselves down for no reason. Loving and respecting one’s self is the greatest gift you can give to a friend, child or partner.

I’ll be back later today, on message, no doubt as there is much to discuss. I wanted to say “hello” to all three of you and let you know I was back from my self imposed exile. Which is also called “laziness”. Hugs and kisses today – xoxo

I had better get to work.

So, here it is – I am blocking the title for now as it changes daily. Thanks to Kate and Lindsay, we’re gonna shout it from the mountain! For those naysayers, um, nope, not making a lot of money and not using a ghostwriter. So there – all three of us are proud to be a part of this project. We also like that it was the top deal of the week.

Here are today’s deals, as reported to Publishers Marketplace. Please note that unlike our weekly Deal Lunch, this correspondence is for your individual use as part of your membership, and is not for recirculation.

New deals for October 29, 2007

Liz Seccurro’s XXXX Untitled, about her journey from Greenwich, Connecticut party planner to victims’ rights advocate after she receives an apology in the mail from the man who raped her in college 20 years later, with a foreword by Linda Fairstein, to Lindsay Sagnette at Bloomsbury, by Kate Lee at ICM (NA).